The belief that you have value as a person only when you accomplish and that if you are incompetent in some important area, you might as well curl up and die, includes several irrationalities:
1.         Obviously, virtually nobody can be competent and masterful in all or even most respects and almost no one can perfectly achieve.  [...]

I’ve heard it said that change occurs when the pain of staying the same outweighs the fear or resistance to change.  Sometimes getting there can be a long wait.  Pain, though, is a fantastic motivator and can inspire us to do things differently.
“Inspirational dissatisfaction” = I am so fed up or tired of _____ (you [...]